Not where you thought you would be? So what?



Don’t think life is in your favour? Don’t have the job satisfaction that you desire? Not in a relationship that you have longed for? Can’t connect with your friend circle as you hoped to? Doubting your bond with your family? Or just feel that you are not as successful as you dreamed of? Well, welcome to my world and also to so many others out there.

Disappointment has no gender, creed or bias. In life, we all have hopes, dreams, plans and expectations on how this, ‘you only live once’ journey should be. But many of us are not where we would have wanted to be by now. We have a notion about feelings, relationships and reality which are a result of the current age ‘social media’ and ‘technology driven’ lifestyle. These standards that we have set for ourselves are either the results of movies/shows or of what is portrayed by ‘social influencers’.

Our best new hobby is to yearn for what the other has. We have become so fickle as we are easily distracted by the life of others. In the bargain, we end up becoming unsatisfied and disappointed with what we are and have become. We fail to see how far we have come from when we started as there is always somewhere better or higher one can be than where one is currently. We tend to overlook our accomplishments just because someone else has it better than us. Why do we treat our life as a competition when the playing field is never the same!? Why do we fail to understand that what others have is their destiny and all that we can control is ours?

It is perfectly OK to feel like your life is not where it should be. Contrary to your beliefs and that of what your family has instilled in you, life is not an exam where you have a time frame to complete each task. You have been given this time to watch and learn and adapt and evolve, as much as you can and in your own time. Embrace the situation you can’t control and welcome the change your decisions bring in your life.

Let’s be realists and design our path as how we need it to be, rather than how we want it to be. Instead of always attempting to lead a successful life, we should aim on living a content one first. Too much expectations about life only hampers your current willingness to enjoy it and nothing else.

So, let’s break away from our own mental block and have the courage to say, so what!!

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